Getting Comfortable with Being Uncomfortable

My mission is to challenge myself and to be present. The journey has helped me to better appreciate life.

By Krista Muscarella ’12

Read how Krista creates and follows a bucket list, with tips on how to create your own.

Last fall, I booked a rather spontaneous trip to visit Virgin Islands National Park. It was my first solo journey to an unfamiliar destination, and while I was a little nervous, I was excited for everything new I would experience. It’s a mindset I’ve adopted and love — one of adventure and curiosity.

Even with some extensive travel under my belt, from New Zealand to Machu Picchu and Ecuador, I felt a multitude of emotions landing in St. Thomas. I was relaxed as I took in the Caribbean scenery. I was taken aback by the damage from the Category 5 hurricanes that came through a year earlier. I was melting from the humidity. Yet all the while I was eager to explore my 30th U.S. national park. 

I took the car ferry from St. Thomas to St. John and was ready to hike the Lind Point Trail in the park. I stopped to take photos from an overlook, then hiked down to Solomon Beach. Only one other person was there, swimming. It was beautiful. As I got to the sand and took off my boots, I felt a drop. Two drops. Then, it was raining. I looked out at the water and let the rain fall on me. I stayed, cherishing the moment, focused on being present and mindful of my happiness. 

illustration of a woman walking in the woods near a lake in the pacific northwest
Illustration by Brian Edward Miller

I wasn’t worried about my counseling caseload, the psycho-educational reports I had to write, or meetings I had to attend as part of my career as a school psychologist. The reward of the contrasting gray skies with the beautiful Caribbean-blue waters framed by lush green vegetation far outweighed anything else. I appreciated the brownish-purple hue of the iguana that surprised me on the trail, the coolness of the rain on my skin, and the sand under my toes. The happiness continued as I hiked, saw crabs and a deer, and celebrated surviving another day of adventure at the best restaurant on St. John. The rain was a small hiccup in what I expected, but another part of the experience I was having. 

I set a purposeful intention to live in the present moment on my journeys — for exploring and in life and strive to “get comfortable with the uncomfortable.” Everything new is a little uncomfortable. Challenging myself always presents more positives and life-changing experiences than playing it safe. If I want something, “Why not try?” 

My first “Why not?” was during my senior year at Geneseo. I wanted to move across the country to serve as a tutor and mentor with City Year Los Angeles, an AmeriCorps program, at an under-resourced middle school in Watts. I loaded up my dented Chevy Malibu to see if I really wanted to work with students. There have been many “Why Nots?” since. 

It took years of graduate school and family members telling me to “slow down” before I really understood what they meant. You have to in order to appreciate the beauty of your surroundings. Now, I live for weekends and vacations and try to perfect a work-life balance. 

In living in the present moment and getting comfortable with the uncomfortable, I challenge my Type-A personality to “go with the flow.” Every unplanned mishap ranging from rain to canceled flights no longer causes stress and anguish. Getting stranded in Peru last summer due to a canceled flight meant a few days to explore Cusco. 

This mindset has opened the world to me in a way. I’m still figuring out how it affects me, and that’s a beauty of it. I used to rush, to do all I could. Traveling makes me slow down. In slowing down, I am present. In being present, I appreciate the difference I find in people I meet, our similarities in the connections we make, great food and different cultures. I soak it in and keep it with me every day.

 

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